I'm sorry to hear about your grandfather. Losing family during the holidays is about 100% worse than losing family at any other time. I'm an ignorant white person and I don't know what I'm talking about, but maybe wear red with a black/white armband? Or black/white with a red armband? That way you're acknowledging both your loss and the season.
Also, humor is totally a valid response to death, and anyone who tells you otherwise is a pompous parasite who's more concerned about appearances than what the dead person would have actually wanted. The only way my cousins and I got through my grandmother's funeral last year without completely melting down was through inappropriate giggling at her request to be buried with the ashes of her (evil, blind, hate-filled) cat, who'd died more than a decade before.
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Date: 2012-01-22 09:04 pm (UTC)Also, humor is totally a valid response to death, and anyone who tells you otherwise is a pompous parasite who's more concerned about appearances than what the dead person would have actually wanted. The only way my cousins and I got through my grandmother's funeral last year without completely melting down was through inappropriate giggling at her request to be buried with the ashes of her (evil, blind, hate-filled) cat, who'd died more than a decade before.